Today’s world is constantly bombarded with images and stories of people who seem to have it all together. Social media platforms like Instagram and Facebook have made it easier than ever to compare ourselves to others, leading to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.
It’s natural to want to see how you measure up to others, but constantly comparing yourself can lead to neglecting your own needs and not to mention the harm that can be done from not fostering a healthy relationship with yourself.
Here are twelve compelling reasons to stop comparing your self-love journey to others and embrace your unique path toward self-acceptance and love.
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Comparison can lead to negative thoughts
When we compare ourselves to others, we often end up feeling inadequate, jealous, or resentful. Unfortunately, these negative emotions can hinder our journey of self-love and self-acceptance.
There are so many different ways our minds entertains us, and so much time in the day is spent worrying about what we don’t have, what we haven’t obtained yet and comparing it to others.
Commit to doing the little things (embracing an attitude of gratitude) and taking the steps that bring you closer to appreciating your version of tender self-love.
Comparison can be a distraction
When we focus too much on what others are doing, we can lose sight of our goals and aspirations. This distraction can prevent us from progressing on our self-love journey.
To help mitigate the distractions, one of the best ways to support your mental health is to take out a gratitude journal every day you need it and write down all the things you are grateful for, no matter how minute they may be.
Comparison is often based on incomplete information
We often compare ourselves to others based on what we see on social media or in public. However, we don’t know the full story behind their journey, and therefore, our comparisons may be inaccurate.
Real talk? This is something we do subconsciously without even thinking about it. We make assumptions without realizing how this impacts our perception of ourselves and our world.
But, taking this huge step of reprogramming our first thought to feed accurateinformation is the first step to shifting your thoughts to helpful ones.
It can be unfair to ourselves
When we compare ourselves to others, we often focus on their strengths and weaknesses. This can be unfair and prevent us from acknowledging our strengths and accomplishments.
We may not be the kind of person we want to be, but we possess many unique traits and qualities worth noting.
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It can hinder our relationships
When we compare ourselves to others, we may feel resentful or jealous towards them. This can damage our relationships and prevent us from forming meaningful connections with others.
Your version of self care may include considering what some of your closest friends are doing amazing at taking care of themselves. Practice engaging in a bit more positive self-talk when your community or tribe comes to mind and realize that you are on your path, the right path to strengthening your self-love muscle.
It’s important to celebrate our own progress
Instead of comparing ourselves to others, we should focus on celebrating our own progress and accomplishments. This can help us build our self-esteem and confidence, and ultimately, lead to a more fulfilling journey of self-love.
Learning to celebrate yourself and progress takes a long time to get in the groove of. Your inner voice feeds you one negative statement and sends you on a forever loop.
Start with small steps. Set achievable goals for yourself or have someone help hold you accountable. Celebrating even the most minor accomplishment is vital to keeping morale up and helping move forward positively.
Everyone’s journey has ups and downs
No matter how perfect someone’s journey of self-love may seem, everyone experiences setbacks and challenges. Comparing yourself to someone who appears to have it all figured out is unfair and unproductive.
Trust us, every single day, someone is fighting the habit of returning to a comfortable lifestyle void of wellness, but when you are honing in on your personal development goals, knowing yourself and how your journey is individualized to you makes it all the more empowering.
You are setting yourself up for disappointment
When you compare yourself to others, you set unrealistic expectations for yourself. This can lead to disappointment when you don’t measure up to those standards, even though they were never realistic.
Some of the best personal growth moments I’ve had were catching myself from setting myself up for not loving myself more like the creators I watch on Instagram. We all have a long journey ahead, so why become an inner critic when your self-love process takes time?
It’s a distraction from your own growth
Comparing yourself to others can distract you from your own growth and progress. Instead of focusing on what others are doing, focus on what you need to do to become the best version of yourself.
Whether it takes self-love journal prompts, your support system, or spending the end of the day or early mornings working on this self-love practice, it’s worth it. Rinse and repeat.
Self-love is a journey, not a destination
There is no finish line when it comes to self-love. It’s an ongoing journey that requires constant attention and nurturing. Comparing yourself to others only takes away from the journey itself.
Set boundaries by placing your goals ahead of comparison and focus on your self love journey with limited distractions, sis.
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You are enough just as you are
Comparing yourself to others implies that you are not good enough as you are. This couldn’t be further from the truth. You are enough, just as you are, and your self-love journey is yours and yours alone.
The idea of self-love can lead to many of us feeling like we need to prepare for it by changing a huge part of ourselves, yet self acceptance is a piece in the big puzzle. So embrace it and enjoy the ride!
Comparing yourself can lead to feelings of envy
We all know that this is not conducive to your growth and healing process, but we still make the mistake and do it anyway. Good things come out of spending quality time with yourself. Still, you must exercise having a positive mindset, promote healthy self esteem, and set boundaries to reduce thoughts of envy.
Operating in a space where feelings of jealousy don’t come up for you when reading or watching content with people that have overcome similar struggles can be mentally taxing. Instead, why not look at this as an opportunity for inspiration and motivation from those stories?
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